What does finding your voice mean? It can mean living life according to your values, acting in a way that reflects your truest self, taking a stand for what you believe in, or the process of finding who you are at your core. With so many distractions around us at all times, it can be difficult to discover your voice through all of the noise. Even when you have a clear understanding of your convictions, it’s only human to falter or second guess yourself at times.
I found my voice at an early age. When I was only 10 years old, I had to find the courage to speak up to prevent my father from killing a mouse. The mouse had been eating my father’s possessions and he was very upset. I was just a little girl, but I loved all animals and have always believed they have the right to be here just as much as we do. So, despite the incredible fear I felt, I stood up for myself and told my father “No!”. Everyone was stunned, including my father, but I gathered all the courage in the world that a little girl could and released the mouse. That was the first time I found my voice. But for me, finding my voice was associated with survival. It has taken me a long time to separate the two. Speaking up for yourself doesn’t always have to be a confrontation. It can be done in a loving way. We need to shift the paradigm around “speaking up” and “sharing your truth”.
We all live in separate universes, and our own perceptions of the world shape how we view everything. So, communication is key. It is the bridge between all humans. We all have different life experiences, and those experiences will give meaning to what is happening in our lives. The meaning we each give to something is slightly different, so often misunderstandings happen. I believe that in order to connect with people and to create harmony in any situation, we need understanding. In order to truly understand each other, we must communicate.
We also have to think about understanding the different intensities of our voices, or the “volume” so to speak. Sometimes you can say things passionately and no one will listen. Sometimes you say things in a quiet manner and everyone stands at attention. Finding the courage to speak up is important, but so is fine tuning what you are putting into the universe. It’s helpful to remember that it is not about you, but rather the moment shared between you and the person you are communicating with.
So, my advice is this: When you think of “finding your voice”, instead of thinking that you have to stand up for yourself, and that it’s life or death, a more peaceful and effective way to communicate is to think of it as bridging the gap between yourself and the other person’s “self”. Think of it as trying to create understanding. You try to understand them, and help them to understand you.
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