Tattoo Artists’ Tips for Coming Up With A Great Tattoo Idea

CARRIE ANN CONVERSATIONS | Tattoo Artists' Tips for Coming Up With A Great Tattoo Ideas

Maybe one of your friends just got a new tattoo that they love and it’s sparked some envy. Maybe a talented tattoo artist’s posts have caught your eye while scrolling through Instagram. If you’ve been thinking about getting a tattoo for the first time, or even if you have a few tattoos already, the process of getting a tattoo can be intimidating. We talked to a few tattoo artists to get their perspectives on what you should expect when booking an appointment, from coming up with original tattoo ideas to what you should bring to a consultation. Tattoos may be permanent, but they’re also supposed to be fun; with these ideas and words of advice, your next tattoo will be a breeze.

Know Your Artist’s Style

Whether you’ve got a detailed vision for your tattoo or you’re still looking for ideas, it’s important to pick an artist whose style resonates with you. Janice Savonen, a Denver-based tattoo artist, says Instagram is extremely helpful for this exact purpose; you can spend time online just scrolling through artists’ pages to start identifying what you like. “The ideal scenario is that people have already looked at my portfolio or are pretty well versed in the work I’ve done, as that can give them an idea of what to expect,” she says. For instance, Janice’s style involves an illustrative aesthetic and tends to feature plants, animals and nature, so many clients seek her out for these themes. “Liking the style of the person you’re choosing more so than anything seems to be really important.”

If you’re new to tattoos, it can be helpful to start identifying the subjects and art styles that you like. Emrah Ozan, an artist based in Brooklyn, recommends trawling Instagram for inspiration. “Instagram is the most accessible way today to quickly find artists and to see their style. I would recommend finding some good studios to follow, and then start doing some research on the style that you’re most attracted to.”

Consultations Can Help You Hone Your Tattoo Ideas

Working with a tattoo artist is always both a conversation and a collaboration. Bringing reference photos to the table, either of a subject, an image, or a style you like, is a great way to help your artist know more about what you’re looking for. Carrie Metz-Caporusso, a tattoo artist based in Ann Arbor, says she prefers not to see photos of another tattoo artist’s work so it doesn’t compromise the uniqueness of her own creations. “I always ask for 4 things. The subject matter, the size in inches, the location and a photograph of the location,” she says.

“Consultations are pretty cool because I can get a look at someone and get an essence of what they’re already decorating themselves with.”

Janice says she likes clients to bring in photos of her work that they like to help her come up with the perfect tattoo idea. “I do have a few different styles, and pictures are great references for me to understand visually what they’re interested in.”

Janice finds that often, in-person tattoo consultations can be a great place for the artist and the client to collaborate on an idea. “Consultations are pretty cool because I can get a look at someone and get an essence of what they’re already decorating themselves with.” She says when clients are flexible, a conversation with them and a few key questions can help her hone in on a meaningful tattoo idea. “Do you like a certain type of flower? Or maybe I’ll play with astrology a little bit. If they’re not into that, I’ll ask what they’re up to or where they live or what they care about and get a feel for who they are to give me access points.”

If you’re struggling to come up with an idea for your tattoo, Carrie says she always recommends a bit of self reflection. “Think about what is unique to you. What represents who you are? For example, I have people who want dedication tattoos for a loved one who passed and they come to me with birth dates and death dates. There’s nothing wrong with this concept, but I encourage them to tell me what they think about when they remember their loved one. Was it a fun trip? A favorite song? That way I can come up with a unique design that’s special to them.”

Emrah says that the more he’s able to talk with his clients about the things they like, the easier it is to create a work they’ll enjoy. “[Bringing in references] helps me understand the direction for the design,” he says. “Often clients are unsure of the placement, so knowing the other elements can help me give a good suggestion on where it would fit best.”

Trust Yourself.

If you’re getting your first tattoo, or even considering adding another to your collection, it can feel paralyzing to need to find an idea that’s “important” enough. Janice would argue that the very fact that you’re drawn to an image means it’s worth getting. “I love telling stories through art; [tattoos are] my favorite form. However, I really value when people don’t know why they’re getting the tattoo and just love it for the sake of what it is. Choosing it connects them to something bigger than they really understand and sometimes once you get the tattoo it slowly creates that meaning for you. It’s like you grow with the tattoo and the tattoo grows with you and slowly it decodes itself no matter what. When I’ve gotten tattoos, the meanings changed, or sometimes the meaning’s irrelevant because it’s more a time capsule of where you’re at.”

“I really value when people don’t know why they’re getting the tattoo and just love it for the sake of what it is.”

Janice says that it can be really freeing just to submit to the process instead of worrying about having the “perfect” tattoo idea. “It’s a huge form of letting go. When you get a tattoo you’re surrendering; it’s almost like a surrender to your body. I think it’s self expression but it’s also a transcendence. You’re transitioning. On a cellular, metaphysical way you’re changing your body too.”

Carrie adds that as long as you’re following your intuition, you’re going to have a good experience. “You know what you like best so lean into who you are and you’ll never have a regrettable tattoo.”

Trust Your Artist

When you hire a tattoo artist, their role isn’t just to copy an image onto your skin; you’re hiring them not only for their style, but for their expertise as well. Tattoo artists can help you translate your ideas into body art, which is harder than you might think. “It’s really important that it’s a conversation because there are some things that I can’t do,” Janice says. “There are certain things that just don’t make sense in tattoos; drawings don’t automatically translate. It has to be a dialogue. When someone says ‘I love your art, I trust you,’ when they’re flexible, it allows me more room to be creative and apply the skills and passion and excitement.” She says it’s ideal when a client comes to her with a few key elements and lets her make suggestions about how to incorporate them. They might say they like mammals and flowers and Janice might recommend a pairing of a bear and a peony, with some decorations.

Alexey Trofimov, based out of Brooklyn, says that after he works with a client on a tattoo idea and they agree on references, the client won’t see his final design until the day of the session. “As practice shows,” he says, “when a client has a design, he begins to doubt it and always tries to change something.” He says this can interfere with the process and even result in a cancellation because a client can’t stop overthinking the design.

“The outcome of the tattoo isn’t just the image; it’s warrior training in a way.”

Janice says one of the more interesting parts of working as a tattoo artist is that you don’t know exactly what the end result will look like; there’s a magic in the capturing of that moment. She says this is what differentiates it from many other art forms. “When you’re tattooing, you’re holding that space with a person and energetically you’re connecting.” The fact that the art manifests itself in that moment, as a collaboration between a client and an artist, only adds to its value. “You can never fully know what the tattoo is going to look like until the day of, and it’s painful, it forces you to meditate and get through it. The outcome of the tattoo isn’t just the image; it’s warrior training in a way.”

Tattoos Are All About Loving Your Body

Tattoo artists can also have an expertise when it comes to placing tattoos in a way that elevates your body instead of distracting from it. “I’ve spent a lot of years training,” Janice says. “I’ve taken a lot of figure modeling classes and I’ve figure modeled myself and understanding those angles and those flows and ways to accentuate the body is really cool because a tattoo can make you feel really sexy and confident, and it can change how you see your body.” She especially loves to do bigger, more flowing designs on thighs. “In my personal experience I wouldn’t want to put a small tattoo on someone’s thigh because it’s such a big beautiful area and that’s really a fantastic opportunity to flow.”

“You know what you like best so lean into who you are and you’ll never have a regrettable tattoo.”

Emrah says that whether his clients’ tattoos are spontaneous or commemorative, he can see the impact it makes on their self esteem. “I find that tattoos increase people’s body positivity, and that no matter the reason behind it, they end up leaving the session very happy.”

Carrie’s newest pursuit is using tattoos to emphasize and celebrate parts of the body that we are often encouraged to hide or downplay. “I’ve mocked up a bunch of adornments around fat rolls.” She says the idea is to “encourage people to use tattoos as a tool for loving their bodies as they are now. Tattooing has helped me love my body and I want to help spread that love to others. I’ve only ever seen tattoos that ‘enhance’ a thin or muscular body type; I’d love for people to start looking at their current bodies as something worthy of decoration.”

How We Made ‘Dancing with the Stars’ in a Pandemic

Dancing with the Stars | Carrie Ann Inaba

If there’s one thing that has been getting me through this pandemic (besides quality time with loved ones), it’s entertainment. We’ve all needed a bit of levity in these unprecedented times, and thank goodness that taking a moment to escape into fantasy can be as simple as clicking a button. The entertainment industry has been hard at work to provide audiences with a sense of normalcy, but producing shows in the middle of a pandemic is anything but normal. As a production assistant (or PA) at Dancing with the Stars, I thought I’d walk you through what my not-so-typical day looks like.

As the Dancing with the Stars judges’ PA, my job is to make sure that Carrie Ann Inaba, Bruno Tonioli, and Derek Hough are on schedule and have everything they need for a smooth day. I work closely with our wonderful judge producer to stay on top of meetings, interviews, and anything else that might arise.

The first step of my day is to check in with our COVID officers, who need to verify that your COVID test was negative and take your temperature before they can let you into the studio.

Dancing with the Stars- Behind the Scenes in a Pandemic
My show day look complete with a face shield and snapchat filter

Next, you’re given a wristband, your golden ticket to walk about the building without security tackling you. It’s far from an all-access pass, however: The show divides employees into different “zones” to limit unnecessary exposure between people. If you’re “Zone A”, like me, you are one of the lucky few that can watch the show from inside the stage.

After getting my wristband I head up to Dancing with the Stars’ production office, which looks a bit different this year. You can’t exactly walk around freely or keep your door open as in previous years. Gone are the days of sharing fun snacks in the kitchen or communal coffee pots. Can you imagine touching the same coffee pot as 50 other people now? Nightmare.

Dancing with the Stars- Behind the Scenes in a Pandemic
A little peek inside our offices. We like to have Len watching over our every move.

Next comes everyone’s favorite part of the day — getting COVID tested! The COVID logistics team has the daunting job of making sure hundreds of people get tested on time to keep production moving smoothly. Without them, we have no show!

Before and after the Dancing with the Stars goes live, my main job is to keep the judges on time for their meetings and interviews. Most of these now take place on Zoom or FaceTime via our trusty iPads. Usually our social media team will also make a socially distant appearance to get some behind-the-scenes content (namely, Bruno and Derek filming TikToks). During the hours leading up to the show I also make sure the judges get their lunches.

Our craft services department (or Crafty, as we affectionately call it) has seen a lot of updates this year to keep everyone safe. Lunches and snacks used to be served buffet style, a concept that sends shivers down my spine now. Again production has come up with a creative solution, packaging our meals and snacks separately and handing them out to-go style. After you get your meal, you have to stay outside in the designated eating /drinking zones until you’re done.

Dancing with the Stars- Behind the Scenes in a Pandemic
Signs to remind us that we’re still in a pandemic.

Once it’s time for Dancing with the Stars to start filming, I make sure the judges are settled on stage. Since there are unmasked dancers and judges around, the HMU (Hair and Makeup) and Wardrobe teams and I have to make sure we are wearing face shields and N95 masks for extra protection. Then comes the actual best part of my day — getting to watch the show!

When the day is over we are exhausted, but we’re all proud of ourselves for pulling together and making things work even in the midst of such challenging circumstances. Through all of the changes, live TV is still a fun, very unique experience. I’m so grateful to be working with such a dedicated team. I hope that our appreciation to be back doing the things we love translates to the viewers at home, because it has never felt more important to bring joy to your screens.

To read more Dancing with the Stars behind-the-scenes coverage, you can find Carrie Ann Inaba’s DWTS Diaries here.

Lessons from the Road: What 4 Months Living in a Van Taught Me About Life

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If you told me a year ago today that I would be writing on a laptop propped up on moving boxes in a new apartment that I’d committed to for an entire year I would have laughed in your face. Well, maybe not directly in your face, but in my brain I’d find humor in the concept of settling anywhere. Commitment isn’t something that comes naturally to me. Location-wise commitment, that is. Around this time last year I was pulling into my parent’s driveway after a 4-month-long stint of living in my 1994 Ford Econoline 150 van.

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It began in June of 2019. I had gone through a long breakup and decided I needed to jump headfirst into something I’d always wanted to do. That same week I quit my job, found a van on Craigslist, packed up my Brooklyn room, drove 11 hours to North Carolina, and bought my very first van. Sharona was her name. She was dark maroon with a teal carpet lined interior. It was love at first ride.

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Mechanically, she was in good shape. There were few cricks and cracks that needed repairing; with the help of my dad and brother-in-law they were swiftly mended and it was time for me to hit the road.

The trajectory of the trip was only broadly planned. I let visits with friends and family guide part of my main route and let my interests, desires and adrenaline lead the rest.

State by state the lessons unraveled. When I close my eyes I imagine the winding road as a washcloth being rung out, twisting and turning the things I’ve been conditioned to believe about myself, about others, and about life. Drained of every ounce of water, of belief, laid out flat to dry. Limp and clean. Refreshed and renewed. Ready to use again.

In short, this trip changed my life, and living in a van taught me lessons about myself I could have never anticipated.

Texas: Sitting with Uncomfortablity

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I pulled into Texas in the midst of the hottest time of the year. August in Austin is dreamy, but deathly hot. And the cocktail of heartbreak and heat resulted in tears coming from every pore on my body. In an attempt to cool off I visited Barton Springs, a natural spring located in the heart of Austin where you can swim, sing, dance or go topless, but you can’t eat an apple (I learned the hard way from a lifeguard: No food allowed). It was 101 degrees and I strolled to the edge of the spring to jump in. One toe in, I realized the water was freezing: not cold as in chilly, but old as in it takes all of your breath away the moment you jump in. And there’s no place to ease into it. It’s now or never.

I jump. I can’t breathe. I swiftly swim to the side, get out and make my way back to the sun. Within minutes I’m overheated again. That’s when I make the decision to get back in the water. I swim and swim until the feeling comes back into my toes and that’s when I realize that sitting in uncomfortability instead of avoiding it teaches us to face difficult situations. Uncomfortable scenarios are inevitable. But if we choose to sit in the uncomfortability and work through them, slowly our bodies and our minds will adjust.

New Mexico: Comparison in Sand

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Driving through New Mexico felt like a desert daydream. I pulled into the White Sands National Monument an hour before sunset and hiked up and down the sandy dunes to find a solo place to watch the pink and orange stained sky. As I sat there, not a soul in sight, I reached down and grabbed a handful of sand, carefully inspecting the soft granules. No two grains were the same, and each and every one had their own unique and beautiful shape and feeling. That’s when it hit me. We wouldn’t compare a granule of sand against another. No single molecule of sand is any better than the last, but together they create this beautiful landscape.

Why do I compare myself to others? Why do I compare others to others? My battle with comparison stopped then and there as I laid back into the sand, the harmony of thousands and thousands of granules beneath me, and watched the sun retire behind the mountains with gratitude.

Colorado: Trusting Your Gut, Trusting Your Heart

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Colorado is as beautiful as they say. After staying in a few state parks here and there and sleeping on the side of a city park in Denver, I ended up settling in Rocky Mountain National Park for a few days. There was no cell service and the weather was getting cooler by the day. Each day I spent slowly, waking to the sound of an elk’s bugling cry, watching the birds in the rain, resting on top of a mountain in the middle of a long day’s hike. Trusting my body, trusting my mind to guide me throughout each day with no interruptions, no opportunity for distraction via my cell phone or computer. Just me, my gut and Sharona.

When I left I felt rejuvenated. More prepared to continue on this journey and trust myself.

Utah/Wyoming/Montana: Being Unapologetically Yourself

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The next three states I traversed with a few new friends. Making our way through Utah, we spent a few days exploring and camping in Yellowstone and Grand Teton National Park in Wyoming. A few of these friends I knew, not closely, and a few I had just met. Sharing a tent and stories around the fire is an intimate setting, especially when you snore at night like I do. There’s no sound machine to cover the snore of a person in the middle of the woods.

One morning we found a natural spring and stripped our clothes off, making our way into the warmth. It was a fairly secluded spot and while it was already a new feeling to be clothes-off in the middle of nowhere swimming in a spring, it was an even more shocking experience when a group of people walked in to join us, unknowing that all three of us were completely naked. As the time passed we realized we were going to have to get out of the water; these visitors weren’t leaving anytime soon and we needed to get back to Utah. We all timidly stood up and walked out of the water as the other swimmers watched. Instead of feeling mortified, I decided to laugh, and laugh, and laugh.

The laughs continued through the rest of our trip and I ended up with a few new friends who accepted my snoring and my naked body and my questionable road trip snack choices. Trying to be someone else is exhausting and pointless. All we can do is learn to love and be our unapologetic selves and hopefully laugh along the way.

Idaho/Washington: Acknowledging Anxiety Without Fear

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In Washington, my anxiety started to rise around the same time that my van started having a small issue. Nothing major, but not as minor as the dead battery that had happened back in New Mexico when I fell asleep with the headlights still on.

A couple hundred dollars later, my van was working fine, but the anxiety wasn’t going away. Suddenly every turn felt scary, every new face encouraged fear, and my gut couldn’t hold onto anything good. On a mountain, lost in the middle of a hike, a wrong turn made me realize I was fearing the actual anxiety above anything else. My resistance to the anxiety, to taking the wrong turn, to messing something up, was what was creating my fear, not the anxiety itself.

I decided to take my Texas advice and address the anxiety once it arose. As soon as I accepted the anxious thoughts and stopped resisting them, the fear was lifted. Sure, the anxiety stayed rent free for a while, but it no longer manifested itself into an impending doom that took over my mind and my movement. Hello anxiety, goodbye Washington.

Oregon: Creating Boundaries

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I spent a week or so in Oregon connecting with an old friend, hiking in the rain, and staying in a B&B that I’m convinced was really something else. But since it was rainy with a touch of snow, and my van wasn’t equipped for living through extremely cold weather, I decided staying indoors was my best option. Plus, they had an actual shower and a toilet, quite the upgrade from my solar shower bag and emergency pee bucket.

While the home was warm, a few interactions I was having weren’t. Between connections back at home, over the phone, and with guests at the commune— I mean bed and breakfast— I felt walked over, pushed to my end, and like I was doing things that over-exerted my own capabilities in an unhealthy way. So for what felt like the first time in my life, I started to set some boundaries.

I expressed a need for space. Set a boundary with loaning money and giving favors. And drew a line for how I felt I was being treated. It turns out boundaries aren’t as terrifying as they seem; they’re necessary for sustainable relationships with others and with ourselves.

California: We Exist as We are, and That Is Enough

Living in a van

I’ve been to California before, but driving through was nothing short of a dream. I laid out on the beach, slept under the redwoods, visited friends, and sat on the top of a rock face in Yosemite with my feet hanging off such a steep side that it had a few height-fearing strangers telling me I was making their palms sweat.

As I sat in the sun, nestled in a crevice of the rock, staring at El Capitan, I felt harmony and oneness. I had made it across the entire country, coast to coast, and found love in, with, and for myself.

We exist as we are and that is enough. Whether we’re sitting on top of a mountain, or in a chair at the office. We just are. And that is enough.

The lessons this trip taught me are something I’ll carry with me throughout the rest of my life. Sure, I still fear anxiety. Yes, peeing in a bucket isn’t glamorous. Neither is sleeping in a Walmart parking lot, eating tortilla chips for dinner, and everything else that comes along with living in a van. But living isn’t about glamour, it’s about gratitude, and constant ebbs and flows. It’s about learning how to adapt, learning to love ourselves, and laughing hard all along the way.

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Creative Gifts for Your Partner Based on Their Love Language

CARRIE ANN CONVERSATIONS | Creative Gifts for Every Love Language

They always say it’s better to give than receive, and it’s never as true as it is around the holidays when you’re able to give your partner a gift that really means something to them. But what if you feel nervous that you can’t think of a creative gift idea? Sometimes we just experience a bit of a block when it comes to coming up with gift ideas, but there are so many things that can help us come up with the perfect gift. For instance, knowing someone’s love language can help you know what’s most important to them and allow you to tailor a creative gift that fits. Here are a few gift ideas for each love language no matter what your budget is. If you don’t know your partner’s love language, you can (sneakily!) get them to take the free test here, or read more about each language to see which one fits their personality the best.

Quality Time

People with this love language treasure, above all else, when the people in their lives set aside time for them whether it’s a walk, a thoughtful conversation over coffee, or even watching a good movie. A creative gift for someone who speaks in quality time will focus on something the two of you can do together; a new game, craft or puzzle you thought they’d like that you can both work on, a class for the two of you, a box set of a show you both love, two copies of a book you’re both interested in so you can talk about it together. The best gift for them is a promise of a meaningful moment, so something that involves you as well as them will always impress them. If you have a tighter budget and more time, you can translate this same sentiment into an experience that costs nothing; plan a walking or driving tour of the places in your town where you two have memories, create a scavenger hunt where the “clues” are all related to your relationship, even set aside time to learn something from them or watch a movie or show that they love but you’ve never gotten into.

Words of Affirmation

People who speak Words of Affirmation as their love language find it hard to feel truly loved or appreciated unless they’re told so verbally. To people with other languages, it can seem like they’re being intentionally opaque when they say they don’t know how you feel despite your actions that would seem to prove it, but this is truly how they see the world and receive love. When it comes to words of affirmation, specificity is important. “I love you” is obviously a great start, but this type thrives when they hear the specific things you love about them and the reasons you’re glad they’re in your life. You might have seen variations on homemade (or personalized) books called “All The Reasons I Love You;” this is a sweet gift idea for anyone but will be especially meaningful for people who speak in Words of Affirmation. If you’re more on the creative side, a gift in the form of a song, poem, or letter might be a great way to show that you care but even sitting down and writing a list of your favorite things about them is sure to make them smile.

Physical Touch

For people with this love language, affectionate touches, hugs and kisses help them to feel cared for throughout the day. There are subtle ways to play into this love language with a gift; a comfy blanket big enough for two, a big hammock to share, time set aside for a cozy movie night. Something they might really appreciate is a fully committed “massage night,” with oils, scrubs, candles, and maybe even soothing spa music to complete the experience.

Gift Giving

This love language can seem really vague when you’re trying to buy a creative gift for a holiday, but it actually gives you a lot to work with! People who value gift giving don’t just want any material possession; they really value gifts that demonstrate how much thought the giver put into it. Because of this, a handmade gift will mean just as much to them as anything you buy in a store. When you’re picking a gift for a person with this love language, think about the things they care about the most, or the things you love about them, or your favorite memories of them, as each of these will wield so many great gift ideas. Give them something that will elevate their hobby, make note of something they mentioned they needed in passing, or even turn a memento from a past date, like a polaroid, ticket stub, or pressed flower into a sweet memento for them by framing it or incorporating it into a craft. As long as it comes from the heart with intentionality, you can’t go wrong.

Acts of Service

It might not seem particularly romantic to other types, but people who speak in Acts of Service can’t think of anything sweeter than taking something stressful off their plate. This might be the only type for whom “love coupons” might genuinely be a good idea; the promise of a clean house at the end of a long day, washing up after a meal, or taking the car to get washed will mean more to them than almost anything else. If you’ve noticed there’s a particular task they dread such as cleaning the house or grocery shopping, consider getting a service that can take it off of their hands and watch them start glowing from the inside out.

Giving the perfect gift rarely means that you have to break the bank; giving is an act that comes from the heart and is informed by your connection to another person. Using a tool like love languages can help you figure out what your loved one needs the most to give them something that blows them away every time.

Carrie Ann Inaba Shares Her Favorite “Dancing With the Stars” Performances of All Time

CARRIE ANN CONVERSATIONS | Dancing with the Stars

I want to thank everyone who tuned in and supported Dancing with the Stars Season 29. It was a unique season because of the pandemic, one where we all worked extra hard to bring some entertainment and light into everyone’s homes. It was also a special season because I believe that it brought us all a lot closer as a family. We did it as a family and we did it with love, and I truly believe you can feel it in every episode we created together. Before we say goodbye though, I wanted to leave you with my top ten most memorable Dancing with the Stars performances of all time.

1. Drew Lachey and Cheryl Burke’s “Save a Horse, Ride A Cowboy” Freestyle, Season 2

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This iconic piece of choreography performed by Drew and Cheryl in the finale of Season 2 was when Dancing with the Stars became the show it is today. Cheryl broke down boundaries of style and created a perfect vehicle that both entertained the crowd and suited Drew’s style of movement. It was sexy and fun and just a downright show down. I loved this piece and when anyone asks me what my favorite performance of Dancing with the Stars is, this one always pops into my mind first. From the orange and gold costumes tinged with Western themes all the way down to the cowboy boots, this piece felt like it became a bit of American history while entertaining us all. 

2. Nyle DiMarco and Peta Murgatroyd’s “The Sound of Silence” Freestyle, Season 22

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Some dances just take your breath away, and this one took mine away for so many reasons. Set to a darkened stage with a piano on fire behind them, Nyle and Peta began in such an intimate way. The details of each movement and the lyrics both remind us that Nyle DiMarco is, in fact, Deaf (He’s an activist and created the Nyle DiMarco Foundation to help Deaf people all over the world). The poignancy of this piece added a depth to each of the movements. His connection to Peta and the music was beyond what we normally see in a couple because of his unique attributes.  Not only did this performance leave behind a passionate and artistic masterpiece but it also left behind a message. During the season, Nyle had an interpreter who would always sign for him, as well as translate everything that was being said to him. I was inspired and learned to sign so that I could tell him how I felt that day about his performing on our show.  

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3. Kaitlyn Bristowe and Artem Chigvintsev’s “Toxic” Argentine Tango, Season 29

What was so special about this number was the journey that led up to it in Season 29. Kaitlyn had received a few low scores leading up to this dance, and I had given her some stern feedback. Kaitlyn had potential and, in my opinion as a judge, she had more to give. I gave her honest feedback about her Paso Doble and there was an outcry from Bachelor Nation that I was being unfair to Kaitlyn. I’ve noticed that around the 7th week of each season of Dancing with the Stars, people get very impassioned about who they are rooting for and the social media feedback can get quite negative towards the judges. I’ve seen it happen from Season 1 on. It’s always happens. But I believe in honest feedback because I want people to have the ultimate experience on our show, and that kind of experience only happens when you challenge yourself and push yourself to go beyond what you thought was possible.

We all witnessed Kaitlyn find her perfection in the expression of her Argentine Tango. Together, Kaitlyn and her partner Artem faced that Argentine Tango with a fire and determination unlike any prior performance. And it was incredible! It was sheer and utter perfection. Every movement was executed with the right balance of passion, power and intention. Every line was stretched to perfection, every step placed with meticulous attention to detail. It was truly amazing to witness. And this moment was one of pure joy not only for them, but for all of us in the ballroom. Magic is magic, after all. I love when people who join our show can experience a dance of perfection, where you surpass your own expectations, where you are almost beyond human, where you and the dance become one. I remember my perfection moments in my own dance career and I love when our contestants can have that moment for themselves, and can look back at that instance of pure ecstasy and can claim it as their own. There is nothing like earning a moment in your life, through blood sweat and tears, and to be at one with pure expression and creativity. Bravo!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMgeUYA9PwA

4. Amy Purdy and Derek Hough’s “Only Human” Contemporary, Season 18

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It was only Week 3 in the competition, and it was the first time Amy exposed her prosthetic legs.  Amy is a double amputee, snowboarder, Paralympic medalist, and inspirational speaker. In my opinion, she was one of the most inspiring people ever to be on Dancing with the Stars.  Her ability to compete so strongly while being a double amputee was eye-opening.  We had to hold her to the same standards as everyone else that season, and she stood up to that test and smashed the concept of “limitation.’  This performance showcased the power of vulnerability in dance. It demonstrated so clearly that when you open your heart and share of yourself in dance, or in any venue, you can touch the world in a way that’s life-affirming. In dance, the only tool is the person dancing.  Dance is truly the artistry of a human being.  This performance is etched in my heart as the dance that touched our nation. Amy showed me and everyone else that anything is possible when you take it one step at a time.  There is a move in that choreography that I will always remember: the final steps where Amy suspended in the air by her partner Derek and she was walking on air.  And I think we all could see ourselves in that moment, walking towards our dreams.

5. Mel B and Maksim Chmerkovskiy’s “Free Your Mind” Pasa Doble, Season 5

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This was a Paso Doble that set the bar for all Paso Dobles to come.  Maks and Mel started in an embrace. Suddenly Mel turned around and marched right down center stage, owning us all with her attitude.  Her costume was one of the sexiest we had ever seen, and she had her breakthrough with that dance. We had never seen something so risqué before, something so daring and on the edge. It had an “in your face” and rebellious attitude that left us all with our mouths agape.  She was dressed as a dominatrix and she had never danced with that much passion or precision before. Mel B’s in my hall of famers for her powerful performance, command of the dance and that aggressive but controlled Paso. Whenever I hear that song I still see Mel B, coming down centerstage and ready to blow your mind.

6. Meryl Davis and Maksim Chmerkovskiy’s “Feel So Close” Tango, Season 18

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This performance proved Meryl Davis to be one of the absolute greatest female celebrity dancers in the history of Dancing with the Stars. She delivered everything you could ask for in a perfect Tango. What was so incredible was the way she mastered the technique. I can still see her hold in my mind’s eye, with the fingers of her left hand placed just perfectly. She had an elegance and grace to her, but it was matched with a ferocity and a power that was focused like a laser. She had the most elegant and elongated neck and her head was always at the absolute perfect angle. Meryl was a perfectionist, and the magic was also in the immense and palpable chemistry she had with her partner. She brought out the best in Maks; I believe that was his best season as well. It’s wonderful when you see someone firing on all cylinders as Maks was in his season with Meryl. His choreography was intricate and extremely challenging, and she pushed him to his outer limits as well. Dancing with the Stars is so many things but it is also a wonderful showcase of alchemy of partnerships, and how people can change people and bring out the best in each other. This was one of those partnerships and this dance was one of their best. Artistry in motion.

7. Hélio Castroneves and Julianne Hough’s “Hey Pachuco” Quickstep, Season 5

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This was my favorite Quickstep ever! I still remember Hélio in that yellow zoot suit. Len, Bruno and I would often refer to his Quickstep with Julianne as the “gold standard.” It was filled with content and was jam-packed with energy and excitement, at least until he dropped her a little roughly at the end in the final pose.  I think she hit her head, but was ultimately fine. She stood up and laughed hysterically. It was such a vibrant performance, and the way they glided by us in fantastic form, body contact on pointe, incredible and basically flawless footwork… It was one of the brightest moments in Dancing with the Stars history.  

8. Alfonso Ribeiro & Witney Carson’s “3-6-9” Jive, Season 19

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This dance woke up the house at Dancing with the Stars! It was Alfonso’s first dance of the season and he came out of the gates and blew us away. It was so strong and so powerful, but so much fun! There’s a naturalness to they way he performs, and this routine left an impact that told us all to watch this guy! Alfonso’s musicality and his innate ability to feel the moments and know when to stretch out a move and when to bring it tightly gave him the nuances that make a performance really come to life. This dance is all about his showmanship and ability to bring it out in the best way.  When Alfonso stepped off the lifted stage onto the hardwood, he lit the place up. Some dances just make you wanna dance and they make America feel good. This was one of those and Alfonso is a showman through and through.  Whoop Whoop!

9. Allison Holker and Riker Lynch’s “He’s A Pirate” Paso Doble, Season 20

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This dance was so fantastic. It was epic! Riker transformed in the role of Captain Jack Sparrow and danced as a man possessed. He was brilliant, and so was Allison! At the end when the cannon went off, that was how I felt inside. I felt so much joy for what they just accomplished that it was like my heart exploded. The room exploded into wild and well-deserved applause. Riker’s performance was larger than life and like a live-action Disney ride come to life. He danced with more enthusiasm and precision than he had ever danced before, hitting all his lines with incredible shaping and and dancing like the leading man he was meant to be! You could tell that he was just “living his best life” at that moment. The performance had all the excitement of the film right there on the ballroom for all of us to witness, up close and personal. He had a flourish to every step that made this dance worthy of being called Disney Magical.

10. Nev Shulman and Jenna Johnson’s “Black Swan” Paso Doble, Season 29

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This dance was powerful and had a certain gravitas that makes it a stand out to me. Yes, I am a fan of Matthew Bourne’s Swan Lake which I do believe this was a tribute to or was inspired by, and that could have worked against it because his dancers are quite spectacular. I’m not comparing the two, but this dance dug its way into my heart by sheer determination. Jenna and Nev threw themselves into this dance and infused the element of drama into it. This dance proved that Nev deserves be on a stage performing and entertaining people forevermore. His killer smile always lights up the room, but here in this dance, he ignited our imaginations. They truly transported us into a world of imagination, and I love when dance can take us out of this world and let our imaginations light up and lead us. This was a magical performance and Jenna’s choreography was a highlight indeed!  

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HONORABLE MENTION: The Judges Partner Dance featuring Paige Vanzant and Antonio Brown with Mark Ballas and Sharna Burgess, Season 22

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In Season 22 of Dancing with the Stars, the judges were asked to create numbers for the couples on the show and I created this Paso Doble for Antonio Brown and Paige Vanzant. Each judge was assigned two teams and tasked with creating a performance to feature them and help them in their journey towards the Mirrorball Trophy. Antonio and Paige were very different types of performers and were at very different skill levels, but I love a creative challenge. My goal and strategy was to use the one thing they had in common: their incredible athleticism. I had a few ideas floating in my mind, but I kept thinking about the film Prometheus by Ridley Scott. I wanted to put Antonio and Paige in that type of raw, dark, alien and otherworldly environment where it took pure physical strength and a beyond-human desire to survive. These two titans Antonio and Paige had that kind of energy and I wanted to highlight that because, in that aspect of things, they were equals. I knew it would create a more balanced performance if I highlighted their physicality and incredible prowess. I used this song because the lyrics emphasized the competitive spirit and nature of the competition: “Everybody Wants to Rule the World.” I knew this would help them tap into their inner gladiator spirit.  

The element of man (and woman) versus nature was the main theme here and it was imperative that I create that kind of environment not just through lighting but through actual texture. I asked for the box of chalk that they started in. It took a few attempts to find the best way to create the effect without overdoing it, but with the right camera angles and with the jib moving in the right direction, it created the impact I was looking for. I wanted my dancers to seem as though they came from the earth and were of the earth element. It was an epic battle within a battle, even though they were actually and ultimately a team of four. They needed to survive and fight with all their might to survive.  In the end, they survive…. they make it to the promised land, where the water flows and they can keep going. I chose to end with them walking into the water with a “less is more” energy for the most impact; my goal was instilling hope. The whole piece was very heavy and physical and it needed the energetic relief, so I saved it until the end.  It was powerful to witness.  We only had one chance to rehearse it in the water, and we had never done it in full costume until it was showtime. I’ll admit I was a bit nervous, but I loved creating this for them.

Sharna Burgess and Mark Ballas were great to work with as choreographers. I had worked with Sharna before with Noah Galloway and I have always loved and respected her talent. Mark was not as comfortable or trusting at first but ultimately, the piece spoke for itself. My role as creative director was to create the world, choose the costumes and add the lighting and sound effects. I also created the beginning and the end of the piece (I’m always hands-on for the beginning and the end of anything I direct— that first impression goes a long way). I directed the moments, beat to beat: what happens where, who dances with whom and for how long, what we are going for at each moment as far as storytelling goes, what we want to feel and what intensity we need and where. That’s all my part, but I cannot take credit for the steps. At Dancing with the Stars, the pros are always the choreographers and are responsible for their partners.  Here, in the role of creative director, I was very happy with the outcome. I am proud of this number and truthfully, I am always happiest when I get to be creative.  

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It’s been an amazing, truly unprecedented season of Dancing with the Stars, and I couldn’t be more thankful for the chance to look back through all that our performers have accomplished so far. I’m so proud of every member of this incredible family, and I can’t wait to see what next season holds!

To read more about Carrie Ann’s behind-the-scenes experience on Dancing with the Stars, read her Dancing with the Stars Diaries here.

Carrie Ann Inaba’s Skin Care Routine for Dry Skin, Sjogren’s Syndrome and Lupus

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I’ve been asked a few times to share my skin care routine; my Sjogren’s Syndrome and lupus naturally leave my skin dry and fragile, meaning that I have to work hard to take good care of it. I’m also facing menopause and many of my current medications can cause my skin to dry out even more. I’ve given my recommendations on how to battle dryness when it comes to your hair, but skincare might be even more crucial to living a happy, healthy life when you are dealing with daily dehydration. Whether you’re struggling with autoimmune conditions or not, many of us have to deal with dry skin and know how challenging it can be, so I wanted to share how I keep my skin looking its best.

I grew up in Hawaii, so having good skin has always been important to me, not just because I don’t like to wear makeup when I’m not working, but because of the way that healthy skin reflects both health and vitality. When it comes to skin care there’s no substitute for eating well and getting proper rest, but there are several other ways I keep my skin looking and feeling vibrant.

Skin Care for the Face

Kate Somervile Gentle Daily Wash

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Every day, I wash with Kate Somerville Gentle Daily Wash. It’s light and smells delicious, with hints of lavender, bergamot and sage. It’s gentle enough that it doesn’t strip the natural oils in my face and neck and always leaves my skin feeling fresh.

Dermalogica Precleanse

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On the days that I have a lot of makeup on, I like to use Dermalogica’s Precleanse oil. It melts away everything that’s on my face and somehow always makes my pores feel smaller. I just use one squirt and it removes everything, including my eye makeup, with ease.

IT Cosmetics Bye Bye Makeup Cleansing Balm

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If I’m washing my face in the shower, IT Cosmetics’ 3-in-1 melting balm does it all in one step, removing my makeup and washing my skin. The nice, whipped butter consistency is so luxurious and I find it always leaves my skin feeling moisturized. This balm saves space in the shower by acting as a cleansing balm, makeup remover, and de-aging serum all at once, and it’s sulfate free so it’lll never strip your skin. If you want extra hydration, leave it on for 60 seconds.

SISLEY Black Rose Skin Infusion Cream

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Once I pat dry my skin, I apply a layer of Sisley’s Black Rose Skin Infusion Cream. This cream is plumping and gives my skin radiance, but the truth is that I really just love the way it smells. I’m very sensitive to scents and this one is always a pleasure to use. The cream feels great and always keeps my skin hydrated so that my Sjogren’s Syndrome doesn’t eat up the makeup I’m wearing. It’s a bit costly, but the texture is so light and feels like it is cooling even if it hasn’t actually been in the fridge.

Tarte Rainforest of the Sea Drink Of H2O Hydrating Boost

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My second favorite (and a lot less expensive) cream is Tarte’s Rainforest of the Sea Drink of H2O Boost. I received this in a gift bag once and loved it instantly; if you like moisture that feels like dessert for your skin, this is it! It’s a lifesaver for dry skin and really does feel like “a drink of water for your skin,” as advertised.

A Note On Eye Cream

I don’t use eye cream. Because I have to pull on my eyes when I put in my contacts and apply my eyedrops for Sjogren’s Syndrome, I decided that I didn’t want to introduce lotion to my eyes as well. It felt too irritating, and ultimately I was just too lazy to introduce it into my routine. It’s worked so far, and I’m happy not to have the additional step if I don’t need it.

NanoSteamer Large 3-in-1 Nano Ionic Facial Steamer

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To keep your skin in good condition, sometimes you have to do a deep cleaning. I use steam once a week to make sure my skin is healthy. This steamer is fantastic because it can also be used as a humidifier, which is essential for anyone with Sjogren’s Syndrome or dry skin. The steamer can also serve as a towel warmer; you can put your washcloth inside until it’s heated and then rest it over your eyes for better circulation and more moisture in your eyes. It’s a great way to clean the pores and so many other things; I like tools that multitask and this one has an abundance of uses.

URYOUTH 7 Color LED Face Photon Mask

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Because we haven’t been able to go to the spa for any facials this year, I’ve started doing my own. After every facial I use this device. I use the red light for collagen and I always receive compliments after I’ve done my mini at-home facial. I like to incorporate the light skin therapy with my meditation routine; I’ll turn on my Insight Timer meditation app and lay down for twenty minutes to get my daily nap or meditation in as my skin repairs itself. It’s become such a nice way to “get away from it all” without going anywhere.

NuFACE Advanced Facial Toning Kit

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Another tool I use to keep my chin on my face and not on my knees is this facial toning kit. It’s so easy to use that I usually use it on my way to work. Our faces are full of muscles, and just like any other muscle, we need to exercise them to keep them tight and supple. I apply moisturizer to my face and then use this toner on my cheeks, jawline and forehead.

Skin Care for the Body

Our facial skin might get more attention when it comes to our skin care routine, but our entire bodies need care, attention, and nourishment to stay healthy and glowing.

Neutrogena Rainbath Refreshing Shower Gel

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This is a staple that I’ve used since I was a kid; it’s gentle, moisturizing, and smells familiar to me. I can also get it in extra large sizes from Costco which is an added bonus 🙂.

Neutrogena Lightweight Body Oil for Dry Skin

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After showering, I like to apply Neutrogena Body Oil to my whole body to seal in the moisture right away. I put it on while I’m still in the shower, but if you do this be careful because it can make tile extra slippery.

Pure Fiji Coconut Body Butter

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I switch between two creams for extra moisture; this one is my favorite. It absorbs the best and can even prevent stretch marks during pregnancy. Made from cold pressed virgin coconut oil, macadamia oil, dilo nut oil and skeci oil, this mixture is pure moisture. My favorite scent is coconut, but there are many other amazing scents including pineapple, orange blossom, white ginger lily, and mango. I use this oil for so many other things as well. I’ve found that if I put it on my feet and ankles before I go to bed it somehow alleviates my restless leg syndrome. When I want to lock in hydration, I’ll wear socks over the lotion while I sleep. I even use it as a styling aid on the ends of my hair when I’m experiencing dryness from styling, medications or Sjogren’s Syndrome. People always comment on how great I smell when I wear this; you’ll love it! It’s heaven in a jar and nothing moisturizes better. It’s free of any harmful chemicals that can aggravate sensitive skin and is definitely my number one product.

Pure Fiji Nourishing Exotic Oil

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For extra shine on my skin, I’ll put on this nourishing oil over the body butter. This is a tip I learned working from exotic dancers; mixing the oil with the body butter helps lock in moisture and gives your skin a dewy look. It also smells amazing.

Authentic German Nivea Creme

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If I ever run out of my body butter, I use Nivea’s Original Cream to moisturize instead. It’s a German brand and the consistency is just thick enough to do the trick. The scent is fresh and if you want to add moisture, you can mix it with Johnson & Johnson baby oil to keep your skin protected and moist all day.

If you have Sjogren’s Syndrome, lupus, or just suffer from chronic dry skin, you know how uncomfortable or even painful it can be when you’re not properly hydrated. These products have helped me treat my skin with love and care every day, keeping myself moisturized so I can face the world with confidence and comfort. I hope some of these products can help you find the same peace and maybe even a little luxury at the same time.

Creative Gifts for All 9 Enneagram Types

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The Enneagram test can be a great way to find out more about yourself and others, and it can be especially useful during gift-giving seasons. Considering the deeper levels of your loved ones’ personalities can be helpful if you’re feeling stumped on the gift front. A person’s Enneagram type can help you understand what’s most important to them, what they need the most, or what would bring them true joy this season which can be just as helpful as considering their interests and other passions. If you’re not sure of your loved ones’ Enneagram you can read more about the system here or have them take the free test here.

Read on for the best gifts for each Enneagram Type.

Type 1

Organized, thorough and lovers of structure, Type 1s won’t stop until everything is sorted, straightened, and ordered to perfection. For Type 1s, consider gifts that play to their Type A side, like fun planners and organizers, or encourage them to take a day off (for once) with gifts that soothe and calm.

Shiatsu Neck and Back Massager

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If there’s any Enneagram type that tends toward tight back and neck muscles, it’s definitely Type 1. Give your beloved 1 the gift of a quick massage break, although they’re more likely to just use this heating pad while they continue to configure their spreadsheets. Either way, their chiropractors will thank you!

Legend Planner and Organizer

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If your Enneagram Type 1 is true to form, they likely already have a planner for the coming year. In fact, they might have three. However, this one might have a bit more to offer everyone’s favorite Perfectionist. Type 1s are used to having everything together, planning and organizing life to a tee; this strength can also leave them with a blind spot towards bigger picture or more nebulous issues, whether they’re emotional, interpersonal, or just hard to deal with. This Legend planner will allow your Type 1 not only to keep tabs on their everyday nitty gritty, but help remind them to check in with their more abstract needs like happiness, mindfulness, social connection and general wellbeing as well. Having their emotional needs formatted in the same way as the rest of their to-do list might empower your loved one to tackle them as well as they tackle everything else.

Type 2

The Helpers of the Enneagram, Type 2s tend to put others before themselves, instinctively tending to their loved ones’ needs. The most important thing for any 2 is to feel reciprocity— to be reassured that their love for others is returned towards them. Because of this, 2s appreciate a hand-picked, personal gift potentially more than any other type.

I Wrote a Book About You by M.H. Clark

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This customizable book lets you write the way you feel about your loved one on every page; write the whole thing like yourself or pass it around a friend group and help your Type 2 feel truly loved and appreciated.

Capsule Messages in a Bottle

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When it comes to Type 2s, it really is the thought that counts. By giving them a jar of little affirmations or words of love, you’re giving them a literal cache of love to tap into whenever they’re feeling low or uncertain.

Type 3

Type 3s are social chameleons, dynamic and able to shift to capture the attention of any group of people. They’re hard working and achievement-oriented and love to be looked up to. A great gift for a Type 3 will help them accomplish their objectives and look good doing it.

Ring Light with Stand and Phone Holder

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3s always like to look their best which makes a portable ring light a gift they’ll appreciate forever.

Ten Year Planner

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Your 3 friend might be the only person on earth who could actually use this gift; they’ll love noting future benchmarks, writing down goals to surpass, and maybe even scribbling in the date of their eventual inauguration because, let’s face it, they’re going to run the world someday.

Type 4

Deep, emotionally intense, and individualistic, Enneagram Type 4s thrive on creating an existence all their own that’s tailored to their passions and interests. When you’re thinking about a gift for a Type 4, look at their creative outlets and passions and customize your gift to those, or look for other ways to give them a deeper experience in their day-to-day: an interesting book of memoirs, a deck of meditation cards, or even some incense.

Tarot for Self-Care by Minerva Siegel

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Type 4s can spend a lot of time in their own heads or in the clouds and because of this they can often neglect their own self-care. By introducing a fun and captivating element like tarot you might actually trick your 4 into developing better patterns for wellness in their lives!

Handmade Glass Fountain Pen and Holder

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Type 4s tend to be introspective and creative by nature, meaning that most of them enjoy writing whether it’s journaling, fiction or song lyrics. Give your Type 4 the gift of always feeling inspired when they sit down to write with this gorgeous fountain pen.

Type 5

Enneagram Type 5s have a driving need to be self reliant, self dependent, and collect as much knowledge as they possibly can. You can never go wrong when gifting a book to a Type 5, as long as it’s in a subject you know they’re interested in. The quickest way to a 5’s heart is through their interests. And, you know, not making them talk too much.

Bibliophile Reader’s Journal

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In general, Type 5s read a lot, and not just for pleasure. One of their biggest strategies to life is collecting as much knowledge and information as possible, which will make a book log like this one the perfect companion.

“Leave Me Alone” Popsocket

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Type 5s can be incredibly friendly and kind, but they also ~definitely~ have a reputation for needing a lot of personal space. This little phone accessory is the perfect joking-but-also-a-little-serious gift.

Type 6

Loyal, perceptive and security conscious, Type 6s on the Enneagram have a driving need to feel safe which can often lead to them being overly suspicious basically any new thing. Type 6s have their heads on a swivel but they’ll always look out for the people they care about. 6s could always use a dose of positivity to offset their natural skepticism, which means that anything that helps them boost healthy habits or remind them of the things they love can make the perfect gift.

Mental Note Sticky Notes

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Type 6s tend to prefer to bounce around between thoughts rather than following them one at a time. They usually prefer to pick up and put down tasks at a seemingly random rate that would send a few more linear types into conniptions if they were to ever witness it. A notepad like this will help the Type 6 in your life keep track of all the things they can’t be bothered to remember and make everyone’s life a little better.

Sleep Tight Meditation Cards

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This deck of cards with different meditations to do before bed will be a game changer for any Type 6 who spends their evenings thinking about everything they have to do the next day and whether someone they spoke to two weeks ago is mad at them.

Type 7

An Enneagram Type 7 at rest is a rare thing to see as this type usually spends their time chasing freedom, happiness, and fun. The best thing you can offer a 7 is either a dose of excitement, like the promise of an experience sometime in the future or a new game they’ve had their eye on, or an opportunity to rest, which they badly need even if they won’t admit it.

Arianna Huffington’s Phone Bed Charging Station

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This innovation broke the Internet when it first came out, offering users the relief of actually putting their phones to bed when they’re ready to turn in for the night. 7s are one of the worst types for endlessly scrolling and catching the fear of missing out, so a fun and cute way to pursue a little mindfulness might be the perfect gift.

Photo String Lights

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Because Type 7s spend so much time getting excited about their next project or outing or pursuit, it can become easy for them to forget about or discount the amazing experiences they’ve already had. Make it easier than ever for your “never a dull moment” friend to bask in the good times with these beautiful photo string lights.

Type 8

Known as The Challenger, Type 8s never back down from a fight. They’re bold, outspoken, charismatic and often have a passion for justice. These types tend to dominate at any game you can come up with, making a fun new board (or drinking!) game the perfect addition to their collection.

Debatable Party Game

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“People who love to argue” might as well be the official description of Enneagram Type 8s; they’ll love the chance to be the devil’s advocate in an environment that encourages it and allows them to have fun.

Plan of Attack Great Big Sticky Note

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8s love to be direct and tackle their problems head on; a fun list like this one will only help them on their quest.

Type 9

Type 9s are the mediators of the Enneagram; they tend to be empathic, understanding, and great listeners. Self-care will always be a struggle for the majority of Type 9s as they have a tendency to give too much to others who ask for things from them. The best gift for a Type 9 is an excuse to hole up somewhere and restore themselves so think “comfort and good vibes” when shopping for one.

Q&A a Day: 5-Year Journal

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Sometimes Type 9s might need a reminder that their most important relationship is the one they have with themselves. A fun, no-pressure way to explore more of their own likes, dislikes and opinions and track the way they grow and evolve could be a great gift to give.

Himalayan Salt Lamp from Himalayan Glow

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A salt lamp can really help increase the energy in a room, making it more comfortable and soothing; this lamp makes a great addition to any 9’s inner sanctum.


We all know that it’s easier to buy a gift for someone the more you know about them; using a person’s Enneagram type as a guide to gift-giving can show us new needs or passions in their lives we might not have thought of. Whether your friend is an outgoing Type 8, a reclusive Type 5 or a caring Type 2, something on this list is sure to delight them in this season of giving.

11 Cheap Secret Santa Gifts for Every Friend on Your List

The holidays are a great time of year to show the people in your life that you care about them, but it can get stressful fast. The pursuit of the perfect gift is neverending and finding a gift that encompasses a friendship can sometimes feel impossible to get right. If you’re in a Secret Santa gifting situation and you’re worried about getting them something that they’ll love that’s within your financial limits, you’re not alone. Here are 12 cheap and easy gifts that are sure to brighten your Secret Santa’s day, no matter where their interests lie.

1. For the Holistic Healer: Essential Oil Diffuser from InnoGear

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If your friend loves essential oils and scents, a diffuser can be the perfect addition . Even if they already have an essential oil diffuser, a second one will always be welcome to fill a bathroom, living room, or any other space with your Secret Santa’s favorite scents.

2. For the Culinary Snob: Herb Garden Seed Starter Kit from Nature’s Blossom

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Growing your own herbs isn’t just an investment in fresher meals, it’s the gift of a new hobby and fresh life around the home as well. Your Secret Santa will love watching their herbs grow in and then using them on their favorite meals.

3. For the Music Lover: Portable Bluetooth Speaker from LENRUE

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With this portable speaker, your Secret Santa’s music an go wherever they go, whether it’s at the beach, the park or even in the shower. It’s small but powerful, giving your friend more access to their music as it’s supposed to be heard.

4. For the One with the Curated Instagram Feed: HD Phone Lenses from LEKNES

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This set of lenses that easily fits any smartphone is the perfect gift for the amateur photographer in your life. They’ll love getting to elevate their phone photos with the different angles and distortions this lens kit provides.

5. For the Book Lover: Antiquarian Bookplates from Potter Gift

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If your friend loves their books, you know they’d like to add a personal touch to them, including their name in each one. These old-fashioned book plates can make your Secret Santa feel like the owner of the greatest study in the world.

6. For the Avid Biker: Epic Bike Rides of the World from Lonely Planet

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This book isn’t just a great read but a talking piece your favorite biker can keep on a coffee table to share with visitors.

7. For the Sweet Tooth: Microwave S’mores Maker from Progressive International

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We all know someone with a passion for sweets who has more than likely had a few failed experiments trying to recreate everyone’s favorite camping treat in the oven. This nifty gift will save your Secret Santa time and cleaning and produces perfectly crispy s’mores every time.

8. For the Ethical Beauty Lover: Holiday Nail Set from Smith & Cult

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Beauty sets are always a great gift for around the holidays. Not only is this set gorgeously eye-catching, but it’s also a guilt-free purchase as Smith & Cult is proudly cruelty-free and vegan. Help your Secret Santa out with their New Year’s Eve look by giving them this curated gift collection.

9. For the Eclectic Plant Person: Self Contained Venus Fly Trap from Bloomify

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If there’s someone on your list who’s impossible to shop for, sometimes you have to think outside the box. For someone with eclectic tastes, this self-contained carnivorous plant might be the perfect gift. Low-maintenance and fun to look at, this will add a bit of intrigue to your Secret Santa’s desk or shelf.

10. For the Retro Gamer:Playable Mini Arcade from My Arcade

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For the gamer friend who already has everything, this mini arcade equipped with hundreds of games might be the exact dose of nostalgia and fun they needed.

11. For the Adventurer: An Explorer’s Guide to the World’s Hidden Wonders from Atlas Obscura

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Your favorite traveler might not have gotten to see the world as much as they’d wanted this year, but this gift might be the next best thing. Atlas Obscura’s Explorer’s Guide will transport your Secret Santa to fascinating places all over the globe and might even inspire a few travel plans in the future.

Sometimes we get so stressed out by the pressure of gift giving that we can forget it’s supposed to be fun. Each of these gifts will brighten your Secret Santa’s day no matter and take one more thing off of your list so you can get back to enjoying your holidays.

11 Winter Candles To Bring You Cheer

Anyone who knows me well has heard me talk about how much power our sense of smell has. Our most familiar smells will always have a special place in our minds and hearts, connecting us to memories we might otherwise have forgotten. Some of my favorite smells are connected to the holidays, and many of you probably feel the same; the smell of a crisp tree, a crackling fire, or our favorite desserts can always help signal that the holidays and all the joy and connection that they celebrate are here again. Whether you live for the smell of cinnamon spice or want to curl up with a dark, musty winter scent, we have 11 winter candles that will help bring holiday cheer into your home.

1. Merry Mule from Wax Cabin Candle Co

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Wax Cabin makes great candles for every season but, as their name suggests, the cozy winter months are where they really shine. Merry Mule has all the sparkle and cheer of our favorite copper cup beverage. Light notes of fizzy champagne and ginger will bring you cheer while deeper hints of Frasier fir will make you feel like you’re on your own alpine getaway.

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2. Spruce from PF Candle Co

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If for you the holidays aren’t complete without a Christmas tree, this candle is the perfect wintry staple. The notes of evergreen and cedar wood are fresh and pure without being overpowering, bringing the smells of a snow-dusted forest with every lighting.

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3. Snowed In Candle from Evil Queen

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If you spend your days fantasizing about a cabin in the woods where someone’s always baking, Snowed In might become your new go-to winter candle. Sugary sweetness layered with all the best holiday spices will bring you comfort and warmth with every burn.

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4. Sweet Mornings from Wax Cabin Candle Co

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Sweet mornings smells exactly like warm honey drizzling onto a freshly baked breakfast pastry. If your biggest delight in the holiday season is sugary sweets, the warm scents of vanilla and oats that waft from this candle will be the perfect companion for winter.

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5. Old Fashioned from Otherland

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The deep, rich notes of plum brandy and dried fruit will instantly transport you to a stately study lined with leather-bound books; this deeper and muskier take on the holidays is perfect for someone who prefers to stay away from sweeter scents, and the gorgeous gilded casing makes is the perfect centerpiece for any room.

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6. Cinnamon and Clove from Wax Buffalo

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Two of our favorite winter spices combine beautifully in this candle to set the mood for a holiday season full of warmth (and delicious baking)!

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7. CINDER Limited Edition Winter Candle from Brooklyn Candle Co

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If the chilly weather always leaves you craving a crackling fire, then this limited edition candle filled with rich wood and leaf scents will be the perfect addition to your evenings.

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8. Sparkling Rose from Voluspa

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The holidays are all about celebrating while staying snug, and this clear, crisp scent of prosecco will bring you an abundance of both. Perfect for bath time or a nightcap, this winter candle will bring a little something special to any occasion.

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9. Silk Pajamas from Otherland

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Perfectly sweet ginger and bergamot zest combine with deeper spices to make a delicious scent that’s both luxurious and complex.

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10. Alpine Mint from Yankee Candle

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This winter candle smells like the perfect peppermint hot chocolate, dripping with rich cocoa, warm vanilla, and fluffy whipped cream. If the holidays always make you think of peppermint bark, you’ll never want to put out this candle.

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11. Black Fig from PF Candle Co

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Sugar, spices and pine are all wonderful, but sometimes you might need something a bit simpler. Black Fig smells like walking through a musty forest on a winter night; it’s rich but subdued enough to bring you a woodsy winter whenever you need it.

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Familiar scents can be such a comfort for us as we navigate our lives and create comforting spaces for ourselves. No matter which smells remind you of your treasured memories, favorite places, and loved ones, a winter candle can be the perfect way to create all those feelings wherever you find yourself this winter. I hope you find a new favorite on this list that you’ll keep coming back to every time the weather gets chilly.

8 Teas for Less Anxiety and Better Sleep

For centuries we’ve been using the power of herbs to solve all sorts of ailments from upset stomach to lethargy. Herbal teas have always been an easy way to create calm and promote sleep; aside from the benefits in the leaves, the ritual of brewing and drinking a cup of tea has always had a magical effect. If you’ve been experiencing racing thoughts or are just trying to establish a better nighttime routine, drinking a fresh, warm cup of tea can put you in a peaceful state and help sleep to come easier. Many herbs are known to lower anxiety and stress; finding the one whose flavors and effects suit you the most can be a fun (and tasty) process! Hopefully, your new favorite tea for decreased anxiety and a more restful night is below.

1. Chamomile Tea

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The warm, soft taste of chamomile tea has always been synonymous with peace and rest. Not only can the smell be perfect for setting the tone for rest before bed, but some of its ingredients have been found to improve sleep quality. Other studies found that this herb can also alleviate depression and anxiety, making it an excellent tea to keep stocked when you need a dose of rest.

2. Lavender Tea

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Who doesn’t love the scent of lavender? Aromatic and light, lavender is a powerful soother in all its forms, and often its scent alone can be a signal to your body that it’s time to get rest and power down. Scientific studies have found that it’s not just in our heads; drinking lavender tea can help relieve anxiety and boost our moods while also helping us sleep.

3. Passionflower Tea

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Last year, Healthline published an article titled “Drink A Cup of Passionflower Tea Every Night for Better Sleep,” confirming what many people have known for generations. Tea made with this powerful flower isn’t just aromatic or soothing; it can actually act as a sedative if consumed before bed and can even ease anxiety. This tea has even been proven to help prevent hot flashes and relieve pain, making it one of the more powerful teas in existence.

4. Lemon Balm Tea

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The striking warm zest of a cup of lemon balm tea can be a great choice any time you’e feeling the need for a moment of calm in your day, This tea has the ability to increase our bodies’ levels of GABA, a neurotransmitter known for reducing stress. Because of this, a cup of lemon balm tea can help keep stress and anxiety levels down, replacing it with a feeling of calm and quiet.

5. Rose Tea

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In our society, the sweet scent of roses has always been a symbol of deep love, affection and happiness, but did you know the plant itself also has very real health benefits? Rich in antioxidants, rose tea can help to promote a lot of positive side effects from calming inflammation to reducing the risk of certain cancers. It’s also known to be a great relaxer, helping those who drink it to find a sense of calm and get to sleep easier.

6. Valerian Root Tea

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Valerian root has been used as a treatment for insomnia going as far back as the Roman Empire; this beautiful pink plant can be great for dampening worried thoughts and promoting rest. Science has found there’s a good reason Valerian root tea is often recommended as a homeopathic solution for sleep and anxiety. One study found that it shortened the amount of time it took people to fall asleep and another found that it can increase GABA levels similar to other calming teas. If you’re looking to add to your before bed regime, consider joining others who have experienced insomnia across history and brew a cup of Valerian tea.

7. Sleepytime Tea

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Of course, Sleepytime Tea is always an excellent choice for bedtime. It contains leaves from all sorts of plants that promote calm and rest like chamomile, spearmint, blackberry leaves, orange blossoms, and rosebuds. This calming mixture can help to pull you out of nagging worries or restlessness and create a peaceful time that’s just for you.

Sleep is one of the most important ways we can give ourselves self care and invest in our health. Often, sleep is more of a process than simply powering down; creating a restful environment for ourselves beforehand will always enhance our experience. If you’ve been struggling to get good sleep or calm your anxiety, consider adding regular herbal teas to your nighttime routine.